It’s A Book Thing Presents: An Interview with Debbie Stokes, author of The Stranger He Knew

Author’s Bio: Debbie Stokes was born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. She has always had a desire to be a published author of a fiction novel, but fear stopped her. She often shares how her story ideas come to her in her dreams, and how she jumps up to write them down. Finally, one day, she pushed past her fear and allowed her vision to come to past. She is now a published author, and The Stranger He Knew is her first book. 

Debbie is a former CEO, blogger, and interviewer for her previous women's empowerment blog called, 3 Women Voices, where she shared empowering stories of how people overcame odds to live their best lives. She is also a former contributing writer for FEMI Magazine, a cultural lifestyle magazine, where she interviewed and shared people’s stories. 

When not writing, she enjoys singing, dancing, inspiring others, and spending time with family. 

Deliah Lawrence: What inspired you to write your book?

Debbie Stokes: That is a funny story. One day, I went to bed and had a dream. In my dream, this story came to me so vividly that it had me tossing and turning in my bed; so much so, that I accidently hit my husband and he woke me up for hitting him (LOL). At that moment, I jumped up, still focused on my dream keeping my eyes closed as I got up, hoping it would help me remember it. Finally, feeling around for the pen and paper next to me, I opened my eyes and quickly wrote it down with just the TV light on. Imagine that. 

The writing was so scribbled, but at least I had written it down before I went back to sleep. As soon as I woke up in the morning, I rushed back to what I had written down and started adding to the story. I was amazed at how fast the words just flowed onto the paper. I actually wrote it in 2018, but life got in the way, and now I’m back. And thank God, it’s finally finished. The truth be told, it is not the same book from 2018. It has totally changed in tone, storyline, character’s intentions, and the title. I call it the rebirth. (I’m smiling), With that said, I am very proud of the book it has become. The Stranger He Knew is my baby and I can’t wait for people to read it. 

DL: How do you handle writer’s block?

DS: Writer’s block has never really been an issue for me, thus far. What really helps me is to identify the characters in the beginning of the story. Then, as I write, I step into their shoes. I mean I go all the way in. It’s like I have multiple personalities when I write, and each character takes over when it’s their turn to speak or act. It gets really fun. 

I will literally get up from my chair and act out their actions, while allowing their voices to speak through me. My brother will watch me and just shake his head in amazement at how engaged I am at acting out the characters. Sometimes, I’ll get out of breath because the scenes get so intense. That has been working for me so far. 

DL: What is your writing process?

DS: In general, my writing process is that I will come up with the gist of the story. Then, I will write down a description of the story. Next, I create the characters and write them down. I always make sure that I write everything about them: their personalities, their likes, dislikes, flaws, what makes them tick, and their backgrounds. 

For the main characters, I will even write down a famous actor/actress who I would like to play in the role of my character. I will also use the personalities of a combination of people that I have encountered in my life, or that I’ve seen in the movies. That helps with giving my characters personality. Finally, I will create a soft outline to act as a roadmap, but many times I drift away from the outline because once I start writing, the characters take over, so I let them take me where they’re dying to go. And it usually works out. 

DL: What were some of the challenges when writing this book?

DS: Some of my challenges were trying to fit the writing into my hectic schedule. Another one was trying to stay focused on what I was writing because I needed complete silence and it was hard finding a quiet place and time. Also, deciding on how deep and real I wanted the story to be was an issue. Although I held back on a lot of cursing and sex; I kept it true to life and as relevant as I possibly could.  

DL: Is there any particular author or book that influenced you in any way either growing up or as an adult?

DS: There was a nonfiction book called, Who Moved My Cheese, that I had to do a report on in college. This little book (I think it had 99 pages), was so powerful and eye-opening that it made me look at myself and life differently. It also helped me to understand change and why it’s important to be accepting, willing, and flexible towards it… something I had to understand to move forward towards my dream of becoming a published author. 

The book was so profound that it stuck with me, and I made it my business to tell everybody about it. I think it opens so many people’s eyes when they read it. In fact, it opened my eyes so much, and was one of the reasons I made a carburetor adjustment to get serious about writing. I’m so thankful for that book. 

DL: What was the best writing advice you’ve ever been given?

DS: The best writing advice I remember was to write everything down. In other words, do a writing dump―and that’s getting everything out of my head onto the paper. The secret is to not worry about editing when you’re in the writing mode. If you do, it will distract the thinking curve. Save the editing for after you’re finished writing. 

Also, I was told to know who I’m writing for? And to find someone who can keep me accountable. Be sure to connect with other writers or authors. And be prepared for the marketing because things are not over when you write the book; it’s only just starting. Marketing is the real deal because no one will know I have a book out if I don’t market it. Also, be sure to put quality books out. All that matters. 

DL: What tips would you give to aspiring writers?

DS: First, I would say to do it now. Don’t put it off like I did because the truth is it will never be the right time, and things will always distract you. So, it’s important to put pen to paper, and let your story come to life. Secondly, decide what kind of book you want to write because a dream without a vision or a plan will almost never get written. Thirdly, decide who you want to write for, or who your audience is (that’s so important). That will really matter when you have to market it… it’s important to note that your book is not for everybody. Fourthly, once you know what kind of book you want to write, start creating an outline and your idea for the story. Whether it’s fiction or nonfiction, work on the outline and start gathering your thoughts and facts. And just so you know, not all people need an outline, but if you do it helps, because it will bring form, focus, and direction as you write. Next, start writing. 

Things to remember, there will be naysayers looking at you crazy and saying discouraging things, don’t listen to them… follow your dream. Also, be sure you create the space and the time to write. Some write a lot in a day; some write a little. The important thing is to keep writing consistently and stay true to your writing. Also, celebrate your small wins, and when or if you get discouraged or writer’s block, take a breather, walk away, but don’t quit. Finish it through the end. And if you get stuck, don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are plenty of writing groups and information online that are good resources for writers… use the information. Lastly, financially, be prepared to put out some money at the end because there are some areas you shouldn’t skimp on, like getting a professional book cover and editing. Also, be sure you have a great title and description. That all matters. Now go for it; you can do it.  

DL: What are three fun facts about yourself?

DS: Three fun facts are that I’m silly and laugh a lot. I love to eat and prefer food over gifts. For instance, like on Valentine’s Day, don’t bring me flowers and chocolates, take me to get one of my favorite meals… a crabcake dinner. And I love to sing and dance but can’t do either, LOL. 

DL: What new projects are you currently working on?

DS: As of now, I’m working on book 2 for the series. Later, I hope to make book 1 into a movie. 

DL: Where can readers learn more about you and purchase your book(s)?

DS: Readers can find more information here:

• Website: authordebbiestokes.com – be sure to join my email list.
• Amazon Author Page: Debbie Stokes page
• TikTok: authordebbiestokes
• Instagram: instagram.com/authordebbiestokes
• Book Buy Links: Amazon ; For autographed copies―purchase from website here. 

DL: Thanks so much for being here with us today. I know my readers will enjoy getting to know you and your work.

DS: Thank you so much for the opportunity!